Today I want to tell you guys about a little encounter I had last weekend. To set the stage, lets first talk about the astrology.
Some important things to note – we are currently in the middle of eclipse season. There was a lunar eclipse on March 13 in Virgo and there will be a solar eclipse on March 29 in Aries. Eclipses often bring fated events – people, situations, and things may be eclipsed in or out of your life around this time, leading to some much needed beginnings and/or endings.
Venus, the planet of love, beauty, and values, is retrograde from March 1 to April 12.
The Venus retrograde began in the sign of Aries and will move back into Pisces tomorrow, March 27, before returning to Aries on April 30. Venus retrogrades are all about reviewing current relationships and revisiting things from the past. On Saturday, March 22, there was a Venus Cazimi, also known as “the heart of the Sun,” which marks a period of introspection and potential transformation wherever it lands in your chart.
For the sake of time and your attention span, I won’t go much more in depth about the astrology of this time period, but just know the astrology of March is not for the faint of heart.
Okay now for story time.
Last weekend, I went to my hometown to visit some friends and family. I was excited to see everyone, but also worried about who I was going to see, and here’s why:
I’ve been going through a breakup for the past few months. It has been a major struggle, but we officially went no contact on March 12. (This is 12 days into the Venus Rx, so keep in mind the things I mentioned above about this transit). I was really upset about having to go no contact with this person. We have a lot of history together and it seems like our story is never really over. Keep in mind, we are both from my hometown.
I had multiple dreams of me and this person being home together in the week leading up to my visit.
He was in all of my dreams that week, even when he wasn’t part of the story. I could feel his presence. To be honest, I wasn’t really thinking much of this. It had been about two weeks of no contact and I missed him a lot. In my mind, that’s all it was.
I chose this weekend in particular because I though my ex had no reason to be at home. He has a busy work schedule, and neither of us go down very often, maybe every 3-4 months. The chances of running into him were pretty slim, I thought.
I had plans to hang out with some friends at a local bar the first night. This is pretty much the only bar I go to when I’m there because its lowkey and I normally don’t see the people I don’t want to see. This bar in particular, my ex doesn’t typically choose. In fact, the last time we were at this bar together, he kept trying to convince me to leave for another spot.
Anyways, I go to the bar and take my younger brother with me. He’s not old enough to drink, but he wanted to spend time with his sister and I needed a partner for pool. We meet up with my friends and everything is good. One of the girls in my group, Ashley, is also going through a breakup with someone from my ex’s friend group. Go figure.
We’re on our second or third round of pool when a friend, Mitch, comes back from the bar and says Ashley’s ex is here with his friends. Is my ex here too? Then, of course, Mitch says his name as he’s listing off all the guys that just walked in. Great. My first thought is, why the f*ck is he here? He isn’t supposed to be in town and he doesn’t even like this bar. Mitch tells me its one of their other friends’ birthday, and maybe that’s why he’s in town. This, I assumed to be incorrect because my ex is not a fan of the birthday boy, who was at home (as shown on Snap Map).
We’re debating on leaving when I decide to say hello before we head out. I thought it would be weirder to pretend he wasn’t there in this little bar. I approach him as he’s waiting in line to order a drink. I think maybe I caught him by surprise because for a second he seems stunned. He reaches out for a handshake and we exchange awkward hellos. I gave his arm a big squeeze before walking away.
The exchange was cordial and professional, at least on the surface. Deep down, I felt deeply unsettled and conflicted. On one hand, I wanted it to be how it used to. On the other, I knew that it couldn’t be because of our circumstances.
I really didn’t want to see him because I knew what it would do to my heart. It felt like we were meant to cross paths, even though the exchange was pretty mundane. I wonder, what did he think of the interaction?
This encounter was mere hours before the Venus Cazimi in Aries. When I realized this fact, I was honestly shook. Shook because I didn’t think the astrology would be so literal and in my face. I remembered my dreams and began to wonder, was the universe trying to tell me something? To that, I don’t know yet.
I spoke to some friends about this occurrence, and they all had different things to say. Some were adamant that it was just a coincidence. Could it be? 100%. But is the astrology giving coincidence right now between eclipses, retrogrades, and a cazimi? I wouldn’t say so.
[I want to add here that in this situation, I am an unreliable narrator. I have a bias. Deep down, I wanted this to be a fated event. I wanted our crossing of paths to mean something, and frankly, coincidences are just no fun.]
When we initially went no contact, I had this retrograde in mind specifically. I wanted to work with the astrology so that maybe things would work in my favor, rather than against it. Venus retrogrades are about assessing relationships and figuring out which ones are worth the work and which ones need to go. This being the most heightened point of the retrograde, I thought this encounter was striking, to say the least.
So, what does this mean for my relationship with my ex? I truly don’t know. The encounter could have many meanings. It could have happened because our story isn’t done, and the universe brought us together to show us that. It could also have been the universe showing us that the dynamic has changed and it’s time to move on. It could even be a reminder to him of what he’s losing if he doesn’t get it together. Or, it could all just be one big coincidence. Another anecdote to add to my collection.
Coincidence or not, I don’t believe the universe would put someone in my path that I’m not meant to have in my life anymore.
So, what do you think? Was this random run-in with my ex-boyfriend a silly coincidence, or do you think this was a fated event? Has anything like this happened to you recently? Something that is a little too on the nose? Let me know in the comments, and I’ll talk to you guys soon.
-Liza ❤
[The images in this post are not mine]
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